Endings are difficult. Divorce, death, and moving to another home seem particularly challenging, when I read research. These research studies use statistics and can sort what events tend to cause people to feel stress.
Individuals are not numbers. What distresses one person can delight another. Bob says divorce is terrible. Jasmine insists divorce is the most incredible event of her life.
Yet again, transitions require us to adjust. It takes some energy to adapt to our new circumstances. Our perception of the change can have a great impact on how we adjust to our new conditions.
Muhammad is devastated, because his wife left. Hafiz was ecstatic, after he left home.
Whether we perceive these events as good or bad, adjustments are required. It is wise to take extra care of ourselves as we go through the passage of change. This doorway can surprise us in its intensity.
Please watch this video by Janet Childs, from the Center for Living with Dying, about coping with loss and grief:
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